Oh how I wish this fact were more widely acknowledged.

So many paint problems to be a treacherous one-way path, with a steep incline to each side so that even one person can barely pass. They paint an issue to be this or that person's fault, an only this or that person's fault. This is hardly ever the case. Problems, disputes, whatever one may call them, especially those between people, and certainly those augmented by emotions, are roundabouts. Disputes rarely come from a single slight, but rather a conversation of offenses that feed off of each other. Highly personal disagreements chase after themselves, with the same repetition of a dog chasing after its own tail. In order to resolve any sort of issue, all parties must first acknowledge this, and then accept that it is in fact not just one party's fault. It is the fault of every one involved. Then and only then can the problem at hand begin to dissipate, through cooperation and compromise.